Dr. Robert Needlman
Specialist in pediatric behavior and development.
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 Ask Dr. Needlman
Theories And Books About Discipline | | | QUESTION | | | | I am a new parent and interested in various theories on discipline. What are some of your favorite books on the subject? — Mark in Cincinnati, Ohio | | | ANSWER |
May 28, 2000 | | | There are now shelves full of books on all aspects of child-rearing. The individual techniques chosen to teach children what they should and should not do are probably less important than the overall orientation of the teachers (parents).
Parents who are firm and structured but loving generally raise children who respect rules and other people. Less firm and structured approaches may, as a generalization, result in children who are less rule-bound, but are still caring and basically successful.
When parents don't show a lot of warmth toward their children, the outcome is generally not that good, whether the parent is strict or more laissez faire.
We embrace the Dr. Spock philosophy of discipline: treat children with respect, and expect them to do the same for you.
Here are some of the books I like about discipline, most of which should be available at your local library:
Between Parent and Child by Hiam Ginott offers solid hints on how to communicate effectively with your children
Siblings Without Rivalry by Faber and Mazlish clearly presents very good, practical information, based on Ginott and a lot of practical experience
The Magic Years by Selma Fraiberg is a classic, warm, and understanding book about child rearing
The Emotional Life of the Toddler by Alicia Lieberman
— by Robert Needlman, M.D., F.A.A.P. |
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