 | A seemingly impossible mission, telling her what she is doing is okay and yet keeping her from doing it anywhere that it isn't okay... it is perfectly okay for her to be having these activities. But these practices are the kind that make others uncomfortable. So where is the balance? If you allow your daughter to continue her exploration there is a great possibility that she will outgrow some of these activities. In addition the reaction that she recieves from others will dictate her further behavior. If daddy puts her down on the floor and walks away she will learn that daddy doesn't like her to do that, whether anyone likes it or not. If her caretakers in daycare stop her from persuing any activities there this again will have an effect. Unfortunatly in our society today sex is strictly taboo and this is very sad. None of us would be here if it wern't for sex. I would allow your daughter to keep up her exploration, but open up some room for comment on your side,"that feels good doesn't it" or "do you like that?". of course it has to be kept simple. Even the most preccsious 2 1/2 year old can quickly become overwhelmed. Let her know where it is okay to explore. Tell her that some people will not understand why she does this. Name names if you feel it is necessary. You might want to start a post bath massage session with her to let her know that all her body parts make her feel good when handled in a loving way, not just her genitals. Ultamately I'd just say smile and laugh, she'll out grow it. Ignore any rude comments and support your daughters exploration. It's better she is able to explore on her own now than in the bushes at middleschool!! This also provides an excellent opopertunity to open a dialog. And keep it open for years to come. You can teach her all the mnames of her body parts. You can even add whatr they do if you're ready to do that. Good luck, be supportive. Keep your own eyes open. Nobody thinks the exact same way that you do. Other peoples reactions will be different than your own. All of these are tools for both you and your daughter. |
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