 | I don't really know where I need to be posting....
I have an 18 year old that no longer lives at home, a 14 year old and a 9 year old...all girls.
I apparently have gone wrong somewhere....
My ex husband was abusive. So I was EXTRA nice to make up for his behaviour. So, now, I have very lazy girls that think they should be ASKED nicely to do something and THANKED in return. I'm talking about ANYTHING they do! I tell them they need to pick up the living room , clean the kitchen, etc. while I'm at work, and if I don't THANK them or HELP them when I get home from work (which I might add that I work 12-14 hours a day, cuz their dad can't keep a job and he's over $12,000 behind in child support), then I'M the one at fault! How do I get them to appreciate what all I do for them and not expect EVERYTHING in return?! I know, becuz of the ex being abusive, I was overly nice to the kids and tried to make up for him being a jerk, but now I'M the one that's paying for it. And I don't know how to correct it!! My boyfriend is about ready to walk cuz of how they act and I don't blame him! That's not why I'm here, though...I want them to be responsible adults and know what it's like to be responsible and not rely on other people, as I have all my life....until now. Please help me..... |
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