 | I can sympathize with the both of you. I found out I was pregnant for the first time when I was going to college-I was 18. The father walked out-wanted nothing to do with us. As a matter of fact, he moved in my with my cousin/best friend. When I was 28-GUESS WHAT? I did it again. The father was going through a divorce, when he found out about the baby, he went back to his wife. You would think I had learned something-but I didn't and did it again at thirty three. This time, we got married. lol. (first marriage for both of us) You are right, it is scary. It can be very overwhelming at times, especially when the father isn't there, and you are the sole support of this little life form. But, you will find out when that little baby gets here, that you are stronger than you think you are. Just believe in yourself. Talk to friends or family when you are having a bad day. There are going to be many trying times ahead of you. I won't lie. But there are many wonderful times ahead too. The first time baby smiles at you, laughs with you, learns to walk...It really does make the bad times seem not so bad. My children are now 15 1/2 years, 5 1/2years and 6months today. They are the BEST thing that ever happened to me. They made me try harder and better myself. When I had my first child I made 77.50 per week. I quit work when I got married, but the last year I worked, I made almost $35000.00 and had purchased a home. Not bad for a gal that only has a high school education and smattering of college. I take pride in that. It may not seem like alot to some, but to me, it means alot. The point in my telling you that is to let you know that you can do this. Your children won't be a mistake or a horrible error-although there were times I thought mine were. They are really the best thing to happen to me. Please take care of yourselves and if you need someone to talk to thats been there, send me an e-mail. Naturgal31@aol.com. Good luck. |
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