Scared of the blended family

November 22, 2009

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AUTHOR:

SeekingAdvice

DATE: 07/21/03 8:26am

SUBJECT:

Scared of the blended family

I am soon to marry a wonderful man who is also a very caring father of a three-year old daughter. Since his marriage was on the rocks prior to his daughters birth, he was divorced shortly after she was born. Becuase of this we have been together most of her life and I've grown very close to her. He adores this little girl and sees her as much as possible. This is all great. I can't say its alway been easy. This has been a big adjustment for me being I have no children of my. But this truely isn't the problem. I've grown to love this little girl and miss her when she isn't around.

So what is the problem? We have been talking seriously about having a child together sometime in the near future. We both want at least one more child and are getting to the age where we need to make a decision before it's too late. I want a child more than anything but am terrified that both children will end up broken-hearted by different aspects of this whole situation. The three-year-old daughter doesn't live with us but is with us regularily for weeks at a time.

I think my real fear is this. This little girl is very much a daddy's girl and I feel there will be serious jealousy issues which will be ampliphied by the fact that she doesn't live with him on a full-time basis. Also, he has a lot of guilt about not being with her every day and I don't know if I'm being crazy but I'm concerned he is going to cater more towards her and not have as much energy for a second child. This may sound terrible but I want both children to feel loved equally.

I know people make this work all the time but I'm scared. Any advice?

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Scared of the blended family

SeekingAdvice

07/21/03 08:26am

Re: Scared of the blended family

Andie_01

08/07/03 08:21pm

Re: Scared of the blended family

SeekingAdvice

08/09/03 09:51am

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Kolea

10/08/03 10:16am

Re: Scared of the blended family

sadmomx2

11/01/03 11:42am

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