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| | | NEXT MESSAGE  | | | | | AUTHOR: | nicole2003 | DATE: 07/20/03 9:46am | | SUBJECT: |  Will I survive the ex and step kids? | | | i have been in a relationship for two years.we are both divorced.i have one child(boy 5) and he has two (girl-7,boy-5)At first he didin't get along with my son and it even went as far as asking me to give up custody.we split for awhile because he felt my son and i were "messing him up in the head" There were alot of things i was doing to make my son act the way he did and once i changed those thin gs it got better(sleeping with me)once that was resolved things got a lot better,but i was in denial for along time.Then it was time for him!for months when it was time to pick his kids up i couldn't go because the ex didn't want me to.everthing revovled around what she said and wanted but eventually he started letting me go.we use to all get along fine,but now its awful.He use to let the kids sleep with him all the time and even took showers with both of them.i told him that needed to stop and eventually it did.He moved in with me last december and since then everything went south and soon.HIs kids are so jealous of me and my son.i feel like we are alienated when they are here.not to mention the fact that he and the ex used to talk on the phone at least three times a day.when i would question that he would always say it was about the kids.now he admits that it was not always about the kids.i don't know how to deal with all of this the kids are so rude and he says he'll have a discussion with them. he does and things will be ok for a day and then they go home.his solution to this problem of his kids and ex are always swept under the rug and never dealt with and i think thats how he likes it.if i ever bring it up he gets very defensive and leaves(usually while his kids are here)and of course they all ride off i nto the sunset.i try to explain to him that by doing this he is not helping the situation becase one they are happy because they don't have to share daddy, and two nothing is getting resolved.He has told me i'm crazy and amental case and that i am the one that reeally needs help.when everyone in his family has said the same things to him!i understand that he loves his kids and i would not expect any less,but how do i survive in a llof this confusion? | |  | |
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