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| | | NEXT MESSAGE  | | | | | AUTHOR: | bcboy | DATE: 07/18/03 8:44pm | | SUBJECT: |  Forced to chose between Girlfriend and Son? | | | My Girlfriend and I have been living together for a year and a half. After a few months together, it was obvious that my 18 year old son wasn't adapting to her being a part of our now extended family.
We thought that maybe buying a new home would help matters as my son had lived in my old home since his Mother was still with us. A year in to the new home and things are only getting worse.
My son does everything possible to avoid contact with her and will leave the room if he walks in to the kitchen and only she is there. He stays in his room most of the time.
She is feeling more and more uncomfortable with him and is to the point where she doesn't feel like this is her home.
Before Girlfriend, I had a previous relationship and she tried living with us as well. She only lasted 3 weeks and left running for the same reason.
I'm at my whit's end, feeling as though I have to chose between the two of them. My ex lives very close to us, but son has always preferred to live with me, even though he sees his Mom several times a week.
If I ask him to move to his Mom's will he resent me forever? She has made it plain that he is welcome, but will make it apparent that I have "kicked him out of his home" because of my girlfriend.
If I don't and Girlfriend leaves, I fear I will resent him for causing my heartbreak.
I hope someone can offer advice. | |  | |
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