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nohanmom

DATE: 07/16/03 6:37am

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Re: 7 yr old daughter sleeping with single father.

IN REPLY TO: 7 yr old daughter sleeping with single father.
AUTHOR: ms moore

I have a daughter that is now 8 and a son that is 5. Since their births they slept with my husband and I until they were a couple years old. Then he and I got a divorce. While on visitations with him both children would sleep with him. All was fine until he started making our son sleep on the couch and continuing to let our daughter sleep with him. That really began to bother me...but the worse was yet to come. When he began to have a female companion stay the nights of his visitation and continue to let our 7(at the time) daughter to sleep with him...yet make our 5 year old son sleep on the couch. Yet still.....more was yet to come. My son began to tell me about "Daddy" touching his sister while they were in the bed and having her sit on his lap while they were watching tv and seeing his "Daddy" touching her bottom. Let me tell you this....I am all for a family bed for when a child is young. I breastfed both my children. It was much easier to them there in the bed with me for feedings. But there comes a time when it is just thoroughly inappropriate for a child to be in the adult bed. I don't care how scared the child is......OR how much comfort it brings to them. After I got married, I did not allow my children in my bed. If they are scared, I comfort them when they come to my room. Under no circumstance will I allow my children or my stepdaughter into my bed. I do miss the warm little bodies of my children next to me in the bed...but I would rather miss than and send a message to them that there are boundaries on relationships than give them the impression that it is ok for their father to put them into his bed and that the things he does to them is normal and right. Right now my daughter is in counseling and learning now that there is "good touching" and "bad touching". She is learning that the secretive relationship that he has forced upon her is wrong. For the first time in her life she is seeing the bad in her father. I trully believe that it all began with a "needy" single father with a warm loving LITTLE body (although it be his own child) next to him in the bed and he took advantage of it!

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7 yr old daughter sleeping with single father.

ms moore

07/26/02 05:52am

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babyturtle

07/31/02 11:07pm

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angiegirl

08/01/02 09:57am

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-Dave

08/02/02 10:49pm

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Suzanne_09

10/02/02 11:49am

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misdapoynt

01/19/03 11:40pm

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mdstepmom

02/11/03 08:20am

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mdstepmom

02/11/03 08:26am

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nohanmom

07/16/03 06:37am

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chaos2

11/19/03 01:06pm

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