 | Hi Strangebuttrue, I really hope that you get this message. I am so upset, we went to the OB yesterday and it was not good news. She didn't say it, but I could tell she doesn't think we should evewn try to have a baby. I don't know what we're going to do. She told us that most women who get pregnant in half of a uterus only carry a baby to 25-28 weeks. And they can't save babies 24 weeks and under. And since my right side is only half the size of a half we may only go to 18-20 weeks and miscarry. Then we could try again and carry a couple weeks longer and have another one. And then she also said that there is a chance my uterus could rupture, she said more than likely my water would just break and I would go into labor first, but there is that risk. And it is very dangerous and could be fatal to me. And she said if we did carry to 25 weeks we have to think about the baby and how it's future would be. With all the barriers it would have to face mentally and developemently. Part of me justs wants to go for it, but I don't want to be selfish and have a child that has problems the rest of it's life. But part of me wants to be selfish because I've wanted to have a baby since I was in the eigth grade. I always knew I wanted to be a mom. People tell me, oh you can adopt, but I want to experience the whole pregnancy thing and labor and every part of it. I guess I have extra maternal instincts. Sorry this is so long, I just have alot on my mind and helps to spill it all out to someone. We also have the option of having a gestational carrier. That would be my egg and my husbands sperm but placed inside someone who would carry it for us. So genetically it would be ours. We don't know much about this or how we even feel about it morally. So we have alot to think about and pray about. How many weeks did you carry your baby? Did the doctors tell you all this stuff also? Or did you not know until you were already pregnant. Well thank you so much for listening to me. I really hope and pray that you get this message. Sincerely, chefrose |
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