 | My son used to not stay in bed when we asked him to. If you think the messes in your kitchen are bad, my son went through a phase where he took his diaper off all the time & sometimes it was a big big mess everywhere & he acted like it didn't even bother him!! We have a refrigerator lock (you can find them usually at someplace like Wal Mart or Target) now in case they get up before us & go to get in the refrigerator. The best thing that worked for me was when he made messes like that on PURPOSE, knowing what was expected of him & just trying me- I would spank his butt first off, then make him clean it up. It's hard for us as moms to let these 3 year olds clean up their own messes, but it's a good way to teach them. As for the whining, I tell my son that I can't understand him when he talks like a baby. I ignore his requests if he whines them to me. If he asks for something by saying anything other than "May I please have..." I either do not acknowledge it, or I will say "Wow! is that how you ask for something???" Usually he'll come correct at that point with his manners. If not, he does not get whatever it is he is asking for. Most important is if you say you're going to do something you have to do it. So do not say you're going to do something to her that you are not prepared to do! If you want to, you can send me your e-mail address & I will tell you some more stories & what I did to fix the problems. I'm already gonna hear enough from this post, since I said the words "spanked his butt"!!!
I hope this has helped a little. Just remember that you are the parent & you have to make her do what you want her to do. Once you regain that control, you will be much happier & so will she. Then you will enjoy spending time together again instead of it being a chore. |
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