 | I know you don't want to hear this, but you have to regain control of your house during the day. I have a 3 year old who is almost 4, a 2 year old & an 8 month old baby. When I was pregnant last time, I would get so frusturated with my son (the oldest) that I would call their father at work & ask him to come home. It wasn't that way before I got pregnant, I was just not in control when I was pregnant!! After I had the baby, I was like "OK, mommy's back now!" The main thing is consistency. I don't know if you give in when your daughter does these things like whining about something after you tell her no, or kicking & screaming to get out of her room. You cannot ever give in no matter how small it seems. If you do, it gives her a way to get what she wants _ by acting out like that. You should tell her before you go somewhere that if she acts up in the restaurant/store, whatever, then you will take her in the bathroom & spank her butt. This means that you have to be ready to do that! It's not easy to do, but trust me! If you take her in the bathroom & spank her once or twice, you won't have to do it again!!! You'll just whisper in her ear when she's acting up "Do you want to go to the bathroom?" she WILL say no & make the decision on her own to act better. Kids have to know what is expected of them & what will happen if they don't do it. It's so hard to discipline & it's much easier to give a time out than to take something away or leave someplace that you want to be like the movies or out to eat. But she is playing games with you so that she can be in control of your lives & not you. By doing this, she is calling the shots. I'm about to run out of room, so I'll continue on another reply. |
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