 | I want to start off by thanking you for taking the time out to reply to my messege. I also have to be honest. You already know that I disagree with spanking, I also mind my business for the most part on those who do. I think it is lack of self control on the part of the parent when they raise their hands to a person well under two times their size. Yes, my husband has told me to slap the hand, and swat his bottom, yet he himself will never and has never done it. SO to my husband, as I have told him, put your money where your mouth is and he cannot bring himself to do it. I am truely bothered by the words you use, like respect who is in charge, things like "popped" and boss. It bothers me because as parents we bring life into the world, we bring little people here who did not ask for it, yet there are parents who will instill fear in there children as a means of disapline, then hug and kiss them after a spanking. Talk about mixed messeges. I also see that you tke your sons toys away or send him to his room when he does not listen to you. DO you ever try redirection first. It takes practice, patience and repetition, but after a while it works. Most pre-schools and grade schools use those forms of disipline. Sso teaching our children how to react to these methods will benefit them later on in a social situation.
I know running out into the street is a scary scene and my son being the boy he is has tempted the wide open space, He was immediately timed out for that and then he was taught to look both ways and never leave a grown up side while in streets , parking lots etc. We drill it every time we get out of the car. Wht did you do with your son. Did you spank him in the street, or sis you wait to get him in the house. I know you said that you would not humiliate him in public, so did you wait to get him in the house in front of his brothers and sisters to humiliate him.
Please listen to yourself. I am not trying to sound sarcastic, and I am sorry if you take it that way, but this whole "know who the boss is" , I am the controller parenting is so old school . I am wondering if your parents used spanking on you. |
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