 | I've been reading through a lot of posts here and can relate to many of them. I have, however, not found a whole lot of messages relating to exactly what you should try to do, or what exactly you have done with your own kids that's actually worked! I would love to hear some stories of your own CrAzY toddlers and what you've done that has WORKED.
I feel like I've tried everything. My daughter is 3 1/2 year old. During her "Terrible Two's" I kept thinking it would get better. Well, the 3's have been even worse, big time!
I feel like I have tried everything with her and nothing changes her behavior. She is a very smart child who can talk well, knew her ABC's before she was two, can already spell her name and other words now, among other things. It isn't that she doesn't understand what I am trying to explain to her about right and wrong, she just simply doesn't listen.
Every time she is left alone, like even for a couple minutes, she tries to make a mess. I actually have been forced to lock her bedroom door at night while she sleeps so she can not get up in the morning without one of us getting up too. At first when she started sleeping in her 'big bed' she did good, she woke up in the morning and came directly into our bedroom. Then she would maybe turn on the TV or the computer and be somewhat good until we realized she was awake. We can not do this, what do you all do with your kids in the mornings if they wake up before you do? My child will go directly to the kitchen and start making messes. Every time I've given her a chance to keep her door unlocked, I've woken up to milk all over the kitchen floor, her pouring a whole box of cream of wheat/ oatmeal all over the table & floor, water all over the bathroom, furniture, and other things, etc. I have tried leaving out something for her to snack on and drink in the morning, and that doesn't work. She'll make a mess with it, or eat it then make a mess after she eats it. It's just horrible, I don't know how I am ever going to get her potty trained at night without being able to leave her door unlocked.
She screams at the top of her lungs (this child is LOUD and can sound like someone is trying to kill her when she's upset!), whines non-stop, is starting to talk back. I tell her if she doesn't calm down, she will go into her room. Well, if I have to put her in her room, she will kick and scream and beat on the walls, and throw her toys, etc. When I finally let her come out, she's fine, but This is not a good way to deal with things! When we are in public and she starts acting up, I often have to drag her to the car screaming. She is very stubborn, and wants to do everything on her own, even things she can not or should not be able to do. I try to do something with her, she wants it another way, even if I give her a choice. I try to hold her hand while crossing the street or in other situations, sometimes she will, sometimes she will be in her mood and will pull her hand away and scream 'I can do it by myself!' There are just certain things I don't want her to do by herself!
She is constantly getting into things around the house. I can be calm and tell her no, she still does it. I can smack or hand or butt, she still does it. I can direct her toward her own toys, she refuses. I feel like I have tried everything in soooooo many situations and am at my wits end, my nerves are so frazzled! If I give her something to drink and nicely ask her to try not to spill it, she'll spill it, sometimes I swear on purpose. If she wants to go to the pool and I say 'not today' and give her a reason, she will continue to over and over and over the entire day whine about wanting to go to the pool, she repeats herself about so many things over and over even after I explain to her the answer.
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