 | Thank you for your response. I appreciate it and respect others approaches to raising children. However I am not a believer in spanking. In my opinion, violence will only breed violence. I teach my son that you do not hit the people that you love and I always have discplined my son on the basis of his respect and willingness to do the right thing, which has alwawys worked.
I think with all of the stress he has been through, witnessing my husbands heart attack, my puking for almost 6 months, not being around his family, not playing with peers, getting rid of his dog because of allergies , bringing a new baby home and his dad always working to catch up on bills, hitting him would only causehim more confusion and fear. I want to provide a loving enviorment for my children , not a fear based one.
Also in terms of "spoiling " my colicky infant. Did you ever have a colicky infant, a child that shakes and sweats . My son was born severly jaundice if you haven't read my first letter. He is also breast fed, just like my 3 yr old was and is only comforted by being held. YEs, it is making me crazy, but to put this baby down and leave him in that condition is cruel. Hard work it is , do I feel like I am losing it at times , yes I do, but I refuse to be a stone cold B!@#h to my children and let them suffer in anyway.
My three yr old is aclamating to changes and mt 6 month old is colic and the boss , well yes I am , just finding things to be difficult to deal with at times. I suppose aftet recieving your mail I feel better about yelling then I did before. I am sorry to hear that you spank your children as a means of disipline especailly since they are all so little. Maybe you should read the book, Children are from Heaven, by Dr,John Gray. I did, and thats why I feel like a loser for yelling at my son when he is not litening. Sorry if this sounds cold, but I don't agree with your perspective. Thank you though, you have helped me .Nikki S |
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