 | Hello Claire,
I just had a D&C done yesterday, after I had found out about my missed abortion last week. I have to add that I believe I have the best doctor in the world. He did not give me the option for either nature or D&C. I asked him why and here is the answer: It can be dangerous as your tubes can burst if you wait too long for nature to take its way, which could possibly make it very hard to have babies later. This happened to a friend of mine about 4 years ago. Until this day she has not been able to conceive again. She almost died when her tubes burst, which is an extreme case, but the D&C had to be done anyway. Then, if you let nature take its way, I've heard from many women, that it's a lot worse than childbirth and the pain lasts a long time. You might want to think of your health, as a natural miscarriage in most cases doesn't let go of all the tissue, which could infect and therefore make it harder to conceive again. Plus the D&C would have to be done anyway. Mentally I'm not done with this experience yet, it all happened in a matter of a week. But my body gets the chance to get its hormone level back on track sooner and as soon as my husband and I are ready, we are going to try again. As recommended we're going to wait three healthy cycles for my body to get ready again. It happens to 20% of all women. Knowing that helps me and maybe you to realize that we are not alone. I want you to know, that I physically feel great after the D&C. I had to be in the hospital 2hrs prior to the procedure, 1hr before the D&C they got me ready for the operating room, hooked me up with an IV etc. Finally they gave me drugs to fall asleep. As I opened my eyes a nurse was there taking care of me. I don't even remember leaving the "preparation" room. Two hours later they let my husband take me home. It was the first time I was in a hospital ever (I wasn't even born in one:-)). I have no cramps and very light bleeding. Although I'm mentally not done with it yet, I know that the first part is done, I can go on with my life. I will never forget this "It", which stopped developing at 6 weeks (I found out at 8w2d), it's my little angel. I wish you strength to go through this and to be able to make the decision you feel is right for you.
Best wishes,
Stefanie |
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