 | Hi Kelli,
I am deeply sorry to hear your news, first let me say when I had my first ultra sound I was 6 wks and I saw my baby's heartbeat and man it was the most beautiful thing I had ever seen. Well when they told me about the d&c oddly enough I freaked out and bursted into tears. I sort of felt like they were going to take away from me, knowing it no longer was living..I suppose in my mind I wanted to part with it slowly each day. Let me just say i have mixed feelings about the d&c, first before I go on, getting a d&c is the best thing to do. It gets everything out and not to mention you physically feel better. What happened to me was, once I was admitted to the ER and you know how fast they work. My husband and I were to the point of just walking out because of the nonsense mainly on part of my primary doctor and my O.B. moving on. So once the Er doc knew I was upset, she called in another doc who was willing to take care of it in 15 mins. They did give me a choice of having a d&c or letting nature take its course. I choice the d&c after hearing him out and my husband and I felt it was for the best. Now I was given a local anesthesia which I was told I wouldn't feel a thing..UM WHAT A BUNCH OF CRAP..I was awake, which they told me I would be, But I felt everything. I was fortunate that my husband was able to stay with me and hold my hand through the whole ordeal. I won't lie and say it went well, it was extremely painful but it was over within 15 mins. Afterwards I felt okay, just very tired. The following day, I felt great as if nothing had happened. Emotionally it's taking time. I decided that I wanted to push forward instead of dwelling and I wanted to let my feelings out so I talked on this website to other mother's who have lost and let out my feelings. Kelli I cried for days trying to make sense of it all. I'm at the point now where yeah it still hurts but my husband and I are will try again in a few months. I've been working out trying to get all the stress out and that's helped out so much. Kelli tell your doctor to put you under if they can, because I wouldn't wish what I went through on my worst enemy. I've spoken to alot of women who were put under and wished I was too. However I was in and out of his office within 25 mins. For awhile I did feel empty, like a void in my life but have faith. So many other women have told me about they m/c and ended up having kids really fast so that's given me hope. If you need an ear or to vent or simply to cry..I'm here for you. I'll leave my email address just in case amorismyname@aol.com
Kelli, take care and everything will be okay, it'll take time..
Take care,
Natalie |
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