 | Thanks to both you, classof68, and rennie.gade for tour views. In answer to the question you asked, I stopped spanking my son across my knee over a year ago (he's only been whacked twice since then). The reason I stopped was that I felt this was too "childish" a position to make a young man adopt - but it seems OK for a girl. Sounds inconsistent I know. Since then I've made him bend over the back of a chair to be slippered or belted (one of each in the last year). I'm not sure how he'd react to reverting to going across my lap. Moreover, I don't think that I could use the belt properly in that position. But you're both suggesting I drop the belt anyway. I've talked to my wife about that and she agrees, so I'll certainly consider it.
You both recommend treating all 4 of our children the same. But I don't quite understand what you mean, classof68, when you say that that kids resent being treated differently. Can you explain, please, as I've always believed that my two were happy in that regard.
I take your point about my wife's eldest daughter being in a difficult position, and the need for tolerance. But she's being really difficult and obstructive, not to mention rude and disrespectful. We're going to have to do something soon. I suspect that I will probably have to "bite the bullet" and spank her like her mother used to, but I'm not looking forward to it. Even my own daughter is saying that she needs a good spanking to bring her back in line!
Again, thanks for your help. |
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