 | I'd like some help please with a discipline problem. I'm a father of twins, a boy and a girl, both 16 now. I lost their mother some years ago, but I've recently remarried to a lady with two daughters, aged 15 and 13. We both believe in spanking as a last resort punishment and agreed before we married that we'd continue with corporal punishment when necesary, but hoping, of course that it wouldn't be necessary. But we never got around to sorting out the details, and now it's causing some friction.
There are two areas on which we disagree and I'd really value some help from anyone who has any relevant experience.
Firstly, although I've used spanking as an "ultimate deterrent" for both my children, when I've had to actually carry out the threat, I've always been more lenient with my dayghter than my son. I normally spank my daughter over my knee with just the flat of my hand or, very rarely, a slipper either on her bare bottom or through her panties. With my son, though, I always either slipper or belt his bare bottom, and I do it harder than I do with my daughter.
My wife says that is wrong and that I should treat them both identically. She points to the fact that my daughter needs to be spanked more often than my son as evidence that I am too soft on her. What do you think?
The second problem is that my wife is now saying that, as the man of the house, I should take over the job of spanking her daughters when necessary. She always spanks their bare bottoms, which I think is OK, but it does create difficulties for me. I don't have a problem spanking my own daughter's bare botom (and neither does she), but I'm not sure that I should be doing that to girls for whom I'm not the natural father. So I'd like to hear other people's opinion on this as well please.
Hopefully they'll all behave themselves and this discussion will turn out to be academic. But I'd like to have the problem resolved before any spanking is needed, and my wife's eldest daughter is already looking like she'll be needing one before much longer.
Thank you. |
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