 | Hi,
My name is Natalie and I was 10wks last week when I found out that I had lost our baby. My baby stopped growing at 8wks. The ER doctor then told me I had a choice, they had a doctor that would do a D&C if I wanted to. I agreed to the D&C, just thinking I wanted to get this all over with. Mind you my heart said no, but my brain said just do it. This was also my first pregnancy and my husband and were looking so forward to this baby, which was due on Thanksgiving day. I do have a few moments of memory loss which I didn't recall certain things, but my husband was there to fill in the gaps, to which I still don't recall. The one good thing was that my husband was able to hold my hand during the procedure. I'm trying to get over it, which I thought would be easy but it's not. I'm trying to be positive about it all, just happy to know what it would feel like to be a mom. It's brought my husband and i closer than ever. Alot of good has come out of it. I teeter back and forth, thinking maybe I should've just gone home and let nature take it's course. Overall I'm okay with it. The D&C took 15-20mins. I was in and out so fast. We're going to try again next year because honestly if I had go through this again, I don't know if I could deal. I started working out again and just embrace life again. I cry every now and then when I see a baby, but life goes on, it's hard but I'm going to be okay. My only advice is to talk about it and let it out, don't keep it inside. I love this message board, I used it when I was pregnant and meet some incrediable women who gave me some wonderful advice. I'm using it now to deal with my loss. I hope this helps, just know you're not alone and that people are here for you. If you need to talk or just vent out your feelings, go for it. I'm here if you need too. Take care and Best wishes,
Natalie |
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