 | AKM, I understand your discomfort. My first experience with sex was rape (age 15). I knew all about sex in terms of Biology (my mother taught the subject!) and the nonsense I picked up from friends starting around age 9. It was also made very clear that it was bad and "Good Girls" don't. Many, many years and heartbreak later, I have learned that God created sex to be beautiful, fun and GOOD...in the proper context. The message I wish I had been given at an early age is that He loves me, I am special, and he wants the very best for me. Which means, save that most sacred part of me to share with the right man. Doing so, we can enjoy each other without shame, guilt or regret. Sex is the one act that can either build us up or destroy us because it is not just a physical experience, but touches our souls.
Your daughter's reaction seems typical of the age where boys have "cooties" and they think it's gross. I would not make too much of it with her and perhaps you can even let her know that you felt the same way at her age. Also, you can simply say it's mommy & daddy's book for their special time together. Diffuse the "nasty" with positive emphasis on the mature, adult LOVE relationship. Rarely, will our kids find that in the popular media (television, movies) and sadly, too often, in real life. Good luck!
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