grandma or daycare?

November 22, 2009

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AUTHOR:

starry5

DATE: 04/22/03 7:02am

SUBJECT:

grandma or daycare?

My son and daughter in law both work. I have babysat for my now 8 month old grandson for the last 4 months, for 3 days per week. My daughter in law never got adjusted to leaving him to go back to work. I think it was because she did not want me to babysit him. Her parents both work. My son asked me to do it and I even cut my hours at my job back and later quit. The running back and forth was too much for me. I gave up a paycheck to take care of him for them. I have been taking care of him for free. My daugter in law had been working an afternoon shift and now has a daytime job. My son still wants me to watch him for the 3 days but my daughter in law found an in home day care to take him too. They babysit 5 other infants. I am very hurt that my daughter in law chose to pay for my grandsons care. He is happy at my house and well taken care of. He is adjusted to coming here. Her parents are supportive of this. I think that they are all thinking he will be closer to me. I have complied to her every wish in taking care of him. I never meant to do this in order to steal his affections. I did it to help them out and from the bottom of my heart. I am now without a job and without something constructive to do with my time. They left me high and dry and I am very hurt. Is there anyone else with a problem like this? The support would help as I am trying to get over this but it is not easy. My son understands and does not want the baby in daycare, but he was threatened that if she could not make this decision on her own, they would not be able to see me anymore. And I also have to be nice to her or they can't see me. I was never not nice to her except for fear of crying the day after i found this out - I did not say much to her. It hurts to think of my grandson now going to strangers and wondering in his little head, what is going on.

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grandma or daycare?

starry5

04/22/03 07:02am

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tdreamweaver

04/22/03 11:34am

grandma's know best

meesicle

04/26/03 12:05pm

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luvmybabes

05/04/03 12:06pm

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hycc

05/04/03 08:24am

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09/17/03 02:27am

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09/18/03 02:32pm

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