 | I was fortunate enough to be married to a wonderful man when I got pregnant. But that didn't mean he was the perfect husband during that time. For most men a pregnancy doesn't become real until a baby comes out of your body, and even then the role that they play depends on them and their fatherly experience. My husband's father was never around much and didn't really help his mother out with the children. SO during my pregnancy I was on my own. He helped with errands and stuff when I was tired, but I didn't get much sympathy. Then at the hospital he watched TV as I was screaming in labor and pushing. After we were home, again he couldn't do much because I was breast-feeding, but he did help out with housework, watching our son so I could catch a nap, etc. But after our son started interacting (EX:talking, walking, etc. ) My husband became more actively involved.
He explained that he doesn't really like the helpless baby stage, and felt overwhelmed because I just NAGGED and NAGGED because he couldn't be the "perfect" father.
I think that men in general just have NO idea how their life is going to change once that baby is born and THAT is frightening to them. They go from being able to do things without thinking to packing diaper bags, bottles, diapers and all sorts of things. Just give him a chance and don't hound him too much. It just takes time. And it is a constant learning process.
GOOD LUCK!!! |
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