 | My son just turned 7. He has always been a bit shy in certain circumstances. He does fine in school and enjoys going.
This year (first grade) there has been a couple of times when he was supposed to go onstage in front of a group. First, his religion class (along with all the other grades) sang in church. He was panicked about doing it, said his stomach hurt and he was scared. We didn't make him do it.
Next, his basketball banquet. The kids had their names called, walked across stage to receive a trophy and stood with their team to have a picture taken. Again, he panicked and we didn't make him.
Once during basketball, when he was on the court playing with his team, I had to get up and bring my daughter to the bathroom. He noticed I was gone and started crying during the game. He knows all the boys on his team and many of their parents, as well as the coaches. He continues to do this at other things we go to. No matter how much I reassure him that I would never leave him, he still crys when he can't find me or my husband.
I am not sure what to do. While I think this is something he might grow out of, it doesn't seem to be getting better. I don't want to continue to let him not do things because he is scared. I am afraid he will think he never has to do anything if it frightens him.
I should mention, that this year in religion, when the teacher thought all the students had left after class, she left and my son was standing in the hall alone for several minutes before we picked him up. He was very scared and crying when we got there. I know this probably has something to do with some of his worry, but he was having some of these problems before this incident.
Do you think this is something we should get counseling for before it escalates?
Thanks for your advise! |
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