 | Well first of all congratulations! You may want to read the other messages RE:starting over, there are several women (myself included) which are in your situation. When I first found out about 4 years ago that I was pregnant with my son, my daughter (who was an only child at that time) of 12 years was not what I would call thrilled to have another sibling on the way after so many years. When she was younger she always asked for a little brother/sister but after so many years I guess she had given up on the idea. To make a long story short, once the idea settled in she became kind of amused by the whole thing. By the time my son was born my daughter was 13 and I had her in the delivery room with me. It was a great bonding experience for she and I as well as for both of my kids. Now at 16 & 3 my kids adore each other and after finding out in November that I again have another one (or two) on the way, both of my kids are extremely excited! If I can offer one tip please let me. From the day my son was born I have never asked my daughter to babysit or should I say required her to. Now, she often asks to take my son places and tells me that she will take him off my hands for an entire day or night so that my husband and I can have time to ourselves. She thanked me for never "Making" her babysit like many of her friends had to do, and I think she appreciates her little brother just that much more. I do feel for you in the loss of a loved one, pregnancy causes so many emotions in itself, to compile that with grief is very difficult! Good luck! |
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