 | Hi, I didn't mean to create a controvery by telling you I'm 27 and still spanked by my parents. I simply was replying to LynnJ's message. Please don't be so judgmental toward me and my family. My parents are old fashioned and strict but it is their right to run their family the way they think is best. I love them dearly and am very close to them and my sisters and would not trade them for anything. My sisters feel the same way.
I have a Yahoo profile at live4christeachday which has my picture on it. I'm a nice church girl. I'm not a "terror." I don't think many 27 year olds can honestly say they are still a virgin. I can! The same for my sisters 24 and 20. Our parents' discipline by spanking is strict but it has helped all of us and kept us out of trouble. We have never drank, smoked, done drugs, had premarital sex. We are nice conservative church girls who live at home and help our family on a farm. It's true, I'm an adult and could move out and no longer be spanked. But I am very close to my family and like living at home. I feel safe, secure, loved, protected. I have a lot of fun and close association with my parents and sisters that I wouldn't have if I didn't live at home. If I was being abused or if my sisters were we would move out. Just because we are discipined with spanking doesn't mean we are abused. Quite the opposite. We all feel very loved and protected by our parents. I know many kids my age or younger who grew up without spanking. You ought to see their lives now in comparison to mine! You'd think they are the ones who have been abused. They've had problems with drinking, alcoholism, drugs, smoking, pre-marital sex, teen pregnancies, pregnancies out of wedlock. They are disrespectful to their parents and other people. One committed suicide. A few have been killed in accidents that could have been prevented if they had not been doing things they shouldn't have been doing. Life has very real consequences and punishes far, far more than a spanking! Most of these families are not close. They fight a lot. In my family it is just the opposite. We are all very close. We love each other. We don't fight much. We have a lot of fun being with each other. I couldn't have a more loving close family.
My parents very firmly believe in spanking. It is their primary method of discipline. You may think it wouldn't be effective on someone my age, but don't knock it until you've experienced it (strict the way my parents administer it). It is highly effective! I don't "like" being spanked. It is very embarrassing and painful. But I realize it has helped me a lot in life, kept me out of a lot of trouble that I've seen most people my age go through. We aren't given a choice in the matter. So long as we live at home "under our parents' roof" we will be subject to discipline by spanking. Our continuing to live at home means we willingly consent to this. Sure, I could move out. But I don't want to. I'm poor. I live at home rent free. I'm going to college to be a nurse (I started late in life and am in my 2nd year). My family struggles financially. We all work together on the farm plus have other jobs too. We all help each other. My point is, why should I move out when I'm happiest at home? I would like to live at home until I find a nice Christian boy and get married. If it doesn't happen after I graduate from college maybe I'll move out then. But for now I'm very happy living at home with things just as they are. Yes, it's very embarrassing and painful at my age to be spanked. But I like the accountability. I've grown up under strict rules and strict discipline all my life. It's all I know. I like it that my sisters also are held accountable with spanking and that my mom is too. My mom sets the example for the family. How can any of us say we are too old to be spanked when my mom is still spanked by my dad? No, it isn't a sex game between them. |
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