 | Staying longer is not only not going to help, it has probably made it worse. The child sees that if he cries his parent doesn't leave. I did home day care for years and am a preschool teacher now. I have had 5 - 20 children dropped off to me on a daily basis so i have experienced this. I don't know all your details...like has he been doing this since day one or is this a new thing? But, the resolve is pretty much the same. The parent needs to say most of the goodbyes in the car ...get a kiss, hug, tell the child "I'll be back to pick you up in a little while" , " I want you to have fun, color a picture for me". The reason for doing this before they get in the door is because at dropoff they need to bring him in and get out. Since he's used to them staying around now...they'll have to shorten in more each day. Bring him in, take his jacket off, hang backpack up, offer a toy, then kiss and go. If he's got a grip on the parent, then you need to take him as soon as the parent has done the quick settling in. This might mean prying him off and then the parent should say "I love you,I'll be back" and get out the door. Then, you should be very attentive and caring to the child through out the day. Give him a little extra attention, play a fun game. When he gets upset...reassure him that Mom or Dad wiil be back after snack. I don't know how old this child is, but, if you could make a schedule using pictures to help the child know what the daily routine is it will help. For instance, write 8:00..and have a picture or drawing of parents giving child hug goodbye. Then 8:30 picture of a child eating breakfast. 9:00 picture of child playing with toys etc, etc, whatever your day usually entails, then a picture of nap, snack, playing outside, then Mom/dad picking up child. This way the child knows it will happen the same every day. Parents always come back.
I ahve more advice but this is lengthy already. feel free to email me with questions.Good luck.
Bottom line....once the parent is out the door...if the child has a great time the rest of the day...he won't be so reluctant to come the next day. He'll be looking for more fun...painting, playdough, playing ball! |
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