 | Hello everyone. Thank you for taking the time to read this.
I have a three year old son. He was born 9 weeks premature, but is "up to par" with kids his age as far as milestones are concerned, as well as height and weight (a wee bit underweight, but not too bad).
Our problem with our son is that he is WAY TOO SENSITIVE! He cries over EVERYTHING and ANYTHING no matter how insignificant it might seem. He's CONSTANTLY crying over one thing or another. The wind can blow and he'll find reason to cry over it.
Another worry of ours is that he is so unusual when it comes to contact with other people. Case in point...his ex-teacher, whom he knew for a year, we recently met up with at the grocery store. He TOTALLY tuned her out. Wouldn't look at her, wouldn't talk to her...when she spoke to him he just kept looking at his hands and fiddles with his toy. It's like he was in his own little world. But the minute she was gone he was back to normal. He does this SAME behavior with family members too!!! Even his own grandmother, cousins, aunts and uncles. He WON'T talk to anyone, he won't go near anyone, clings to us for dear life, and when someone says something to him he TOTALLY tunes them out. Like he's in a jar and he can't see or hear them. But once the other person is out of the picture he's fine again.
It's also been a nightmare potty training him! He has NO DESIRE whatsoever to want to be trained. He'll even still poop in his pull up and not tell anyone about it. Almost like he enjoys it or something.
He WON'T sleep at night. He's always been a horrible sleeper (colic that seemed to last FOREVER!). He won't go to bed on his own, even though he shares a room with his sister. We have done EVERYTHING "by the book" (and I've read several) but NOTHING works. He HAS to fall asleep on our lap, or else he can literally stay up until well past midnight! AND he doesn't stay in bed at night either. EVERY NIGHT he gets up around 2-4 AM and SCREAMS and SCREAMS and SCREAMS how he wants to sleep in bed with us. We used to give in and let him, but that was months ago. Then he started to crawl out of bed and sleep on the recliner in our living room. Then we put up the baby gate so he couldn't leave his room and he'd stand at the gate in the middle of the night and SCREAM like you wouldn't believe!!! We'd let him scream until he fell back to sleep but he shares a room with our daughter and that is not fair to her and we also live in a building and it's not fair to our neighbors.
Our son is very shy and will not engage in activity with any other children. Even this week at story time (he won't let me leave the room, even though parents need to wait in the lobby during story time). A little boy was trying to talk to him (he even called my son by his name) and my son totally tuned him out. And when asked "Did you make a friend today" he said "no". It's almost like he doesn't want to have friends.
Our son has no desire to want to do anything. When we tell him about T-ball and soccer (our daughter is big into sports) he says he doesn't want to play. He doesn't want to do Boy Scouts one day. He doesn't want to do anything.
I have tried in vain, as so as my husband, to teach our son things like his "ABC's" and numbers and he just doesn't show any desire to learn. Our daughter learned everything quickly and was like a sponge when it came to wanting to learn new things, but our son refuses to want to cooperate to want to learn. We can grill him over and over again on the letter "A" (for example) and when asked what letter it is (even when we just told him) he'll tell us "I don't know". That is his answer to EVERYTHING we ask him.... "I don't know?".
Our son was in early intervention. He was getting physical and occupational therapy for a couple of years. But he has long since finished the program. However he did go to a special school for a year for SOCIALIZATION only. PLEASE SEE OTHER MESSAGE..... |
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