 | Ok, I know you've got a bunch of replies to this but i still feel the need to add in my two cents. I really hope you read this.
I'm 18 and I am a virgin just like you---I've done everything "but" just like you. And For the past two weeks I've been scared that I was pregnant because I almost lost my virginity but it didn't go in. I have been scared that precum might have snuck in. Now after reading several messages on this message board, I really don't think so because I'm getting my normal menstrual symptoms.
Don't be ashamed that you're a virgin! You're not a freak! Remember, sexual activity comes with emotional baggage (as you are experiencing now with the pressure you're facing). I don't know what you're religious background is, but if you believe in God maybe God is preparing you for something. Do you think it's an accident that you're a virgin? Chica, you're probably gorgeous and any guy would lay you if you wanted to get laid. Any girl with a vagina can get laid nowadays...But I don't think we're missing much. Think about it. If this guy is pressuring you into having oral sex, how do you think you'll feel if you give it to him? Judging by the way you sound, I don't think you'r ready to give him anything. You have to be mentally and emotionally prepared to accept whatever comes---good or bad---from this.
Let's say he didn't call you for two days afterwards? HOw would you feel? If you wouldn't feel nervous, hey, maybe you're ready. But please don't ever find yourself in my position. Are you on birth control? Never go to his house without a condom. Please, have confidence in yourself and I know you'll make the right decision that's best for you. I hope that all of this makes sense. |
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