 | I just found out that my 7 yr old daughter has been masterbating. Although, I really think that she has just recently increased this. She was spending the night with her Grandmother and she asked her not to come around to the side of the bed. This was an unusual request, and my mother quizzed her a bit. She then realized what she was doing, my daughter stopped and then began again when my mother went to take a shower. She would not talk about it. I did some research and instructed my mother that she needed to explain this was private behaivor. (I was worried that she would continue this behavior at my mother's) The next week, last Friday night, my daughter spent the night again and the issue was brought up again. My mother tried to ask her questions, because my daughter was VERY persistant in not stopping. (The lights were out) (My mom is single so they are in the same room)
Besides the worry of making sure I am handling this right, there is something else really odd. My daughter told my mother, and me later this weekend, that she originally saw this on TV with a Tom and Jerry movie ???!!!! I have no idea what she saw, we are careful about her viewing, and she never watches TV alone, other than kid movies we have purchased. She added to this by stating that she thinks of it at school when she seeing kids tying their jackets around their arms and waist. She said she "adds on to this" in her mind. (I did ask her if she saw anyone doing this and she said no)
I think this may be a habit, maybe a means of soothing herself. She has always been a very honest, quiet child. I don't want her to feel bad about herself, so I spoke to her yesterday. She shares a room with her 4 yr old sister and I have a 2 year old son.
I encouraged her not to keep doing this for now, I told her that God made us special, and we have special feelings that are normal, but she needed to be careful of when she does things and what she thinks. I encouraged her to not do this now and to talk to me when she feels like it, and we would try to help her think of something else. She has told me twice today about it, as well as running to her room to be by herself as soon as my mom dropped her off.
I did tell her that it definately was private, and she was NOT to do this at her grandmother's house.
I just want to say the right things for her growth, I don't want her to feel guilty, but I also think she is becoming a bit obsessed with it.
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