 | Hello, my name is Zach, I am 15, and I'm a freshman in highschool. This may not be music to some parents' ears, but I REALLY want my tongue pierced. I have begged my mom time and time again for it, yet she selfishly refuses it. It doesn't make any sense to me. She let me get both of my ears pierced and my eyebrow pierced, BUT NO TONGUE!!! I am a very good student. I seldom get a grade lower than a "B," and I have never even come close to failing a grade. I am always curtious to my mother, and always speak to her in a respectful tone and manner, yet she still cannot respect my individuality. I would love my mom even if she had a screwdriver through her tongue, and if that was what she indeed wanted, I would surely respect that. Why can she not do the same for me? I have offered to pay for it, work for it, you name it, I've suggested it. Nothing seems to fade her stubborn ways. I grew-up without a father. He turned away from my mother and me when I was only three years old, and I have not yet spoken to him or laid my restless eyes upon him for 12 painful, agonizing years. She doesn't understand how bad this hurts me. I am not even certain if he is still living! None of my family is. He separated from my world and created his own long ago. My mother doesn't know how it is to be an only child, either. I have no one to run to when I need some advice from someone who can relate to the problems I deal with everyday. All that I want is to be respected for who I am, not who she wants me to be. I yearn for recognition, yet I am denied of a decision that is such a harmless matter. She is neglecting my self respect, and if it keeps going on, I'm afraid I won't respect myself at all, or worse, anyone else. I am pleading for some advice on what I could possibly say or do to make her see things through my eyes. I have run dry of ideas, so I am running to all of you, whomever you may be, to help me on this issue. Please give me advice, because this is not only about my tongue ring. That is part of it, but this is about her accepting her own son's personality, and respecting his choices. Like me, hate me, it doesn't matter that much to me, but if you respect me, respect who I am, for do not doubt, I am an individual, and I deserve what anyone else does.....to be understood. Thank you, and please help as soon as possible. |
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