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AUTHOR: athanasius47DATE: 11/12/02 7:19pm
SUBJECT: Re: Listening
IN REPLY TO: Re: Listening
AUTHOR: notthenanny
Kids do not become ready for responsibilities overnight, it is something that is built upon little by little. I do not think 6 is too young to start teaching children that an orderly room is much more pleasant to be in. Some may disagree with me, but it has been my experience that kids prefer order to disorder and want to have responsiblities, if having them is perceived as a mark of maturity and not simply dull chores they have to do. But this does not mean that they will all of a sudden adapt to being orderly and responsible themselves. It must be taught and practiced. Have you tried emphasizing that "big" kids don't need to be reminded to pick up their laundry. I know this works for some and not others. but I think the real key is just to make it so habitual that he doesn't have to be told. I have always questioned the idea of allowances for kids his age. On the one hand, with some kids it can be a good incentive and can give cause for him to be taught how to manage money, but one the other I do think it is best to move away from the reward punishment technique of parenting as soon as possible. The idea it not to get him to clean his room or pick up his laundry because you said so but because the room is dirty and needs cleaning or the laundry needs to attention. It will take time for this to happen though.
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