Can Anyone help me out??

November 22, 2009

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new-mom-o-2

DATE: 10/23/02 9:30pm

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Can Anyone help me out??

Okay. Here is my problem. I've got a 3 year old daughter. I recently found her with our 4 year old neighbor boy. His pants were down and she was sucking him. I guess this is not the first time it has happened. His parents found them once before I did. They just didn't tell me about it. She has never done anything like this before. I know they get curious. She went through the whole playing with herself faze and stopped doing that last year. I questioned her about where she learned this behavior and she told me that it was his idea. "He likes it." She admitted that she had never seen it done. I asked how they got to "playing" that way and she said that he told her to do it or he wouldn't play with her anymore. I have already explained to her that it was wrong for her to do it. I know she felt really bad about it. Not letting them play together is not an option for us since there are no other children in our neighborhood and we have no way to get her to other places. I have restricted her from playing in his room or with him with out an adult present, but he still suggests things to her that are sexual in nature. His parents do not seem to care (he blames my daughter for the behavior). My husband and I only kiss in front of her. Does anyone have a sugestion that might help me out?? I would really appreciate a thought or two on this. Thank you

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Can Anyone help me out??

new-mom-o-2

10/23/02 09:30pm