 | Did anyone see Oprah yesterday? It was about spanking and losing control of your children. I myself have 2 boys and was badly beaten as a child so I swore I would never hurt my children but that was BEFORE I had children. I got lucky with my older one because although he had a lot of energy he was generally pretty good, but I did spank him a lot. I actually lost control once and have not stopped feeling guilty to this day. Then my second son came along and was great as a baby until he got to be 18 months then he became a very strong willed kid and spanking seemed the only thing left.
Now my 3 year very rarely has to be disciplined at all and if he does going to his room is punishment enough, he hates it. My younger one is still a concern but recently I have tried to change the spanking and have done well actually, believe or not, he got better. Instead of just trying to discipline as things were happening, we sat down numerous nights and tried to figure out the root of the problem, why he was acting out, after so many attempts we finally figured out that he wasn't being challenged mentally as much as he should be. So ever since we have changed that he was been wonderful and has not had to be punished very often and if he does, we send him to his room, or put him in the corner and we stopped yelling. We became a positive family because when you are angry and upset and yelling all the time, they will be too.
Does anyone have a similar story? |
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