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| | | NEXT MESSAGE  | | | | | AUTHOR: | parrothead | DATE: 09/02/02 12:39am | | SUBJECT: |  Loss of Nephew...What should I do? | | | On 8/11/02, my twin brother and sister-n-law lost their son. He was 3 months premature and he only lived a few hours. I never got a chance to see him. All I know is he was 1 lb 9 oz, his hand was the size of my thumb, and he was a spitting image of my brothe and myself. She was having lots of problems with the pregnancy, so loosing the baby was something they knew may happen. It doesn't lessen the pain any. Being a parent myself, I can only imagine the devistation of loosing a child. Even though he wasn't mine, I am having a hard time dealing with the loss. I always knew this may happen; but being the eternal optimist, I would never let myself think that. So when he did pass away, I was devistated. Since I know how difficult it is for my brother and his wife to deal with I wanted to be strong for them. I also wanted to be strong for my parents knowing they lost a grandchild. My grieving consists of me alone crying and not understanding why this would happen. So how does someone who isn't a parent deal with something like this? Also how do I begin to re-introduce my children back into my brother's life without reminding him of what I have and he doesn't? There are times I feel guilty because I have my children and he doesn't. I don't know if this is normal or not. I've never had to deal with this before. My brother and I are very close and I don't want this to separate us...
I know this is long, and I appreciate you reading and providing any advice you may have. | |  | |
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