 | My niece is 6 yrs old and has alwasy had behavioral problems. She has recenctly been pre diagnosed with ADHD (school thinks she has it). I have 3 & 4 year old girls. My sister in law has had a lot of problems with this child from day one, she is a very spoiled child and has alwasy gotten EVERYTHING she wasnts. I LOVE children, ut I have never had a close relationship with this child, nor even felt comfortable around her. With in the past year My Sister in Law (Lets call her..Sue..not her real name) an I and my husband have had sooo many sit dowm discussions on her behaivor and gotten no where. Sure truely believes this child can do no wrong. Now we are having problems with this child teaching my children sex ed, from which her mother, most proudly tells everyone, talked to her about with MUCH detail. Everything except maybe not intercorse. I don't feel my children are ready for this talk yet. They haven't asked questions. Other than why is mine different then his. To which I reply, "because boys are different then girls". Which is usually all they will stay to hear. I think I handle thier questions as they arise and I answer them honestly, but just enough to which they can understand, and I give simple honest, not detailed, answers. Sue, belives I am not detailed enough for my children, for example she sat her daughter down and watched "Birth Day" on TLC, with her 5 year old (at the time she was 5) to teach her how her new baby brother would be born. Sue also is remarried so her daughter has a somewhat new step dad, who is a wonderful guy, and Sue decided that since her daughter would not leave her alone about what a penis looks like, she would take her daughter in to the bathroom while her step dad was showering and throw open the shower curtain and say' Thats what it looks like! Are you happy? No you've seen it!" From that her daughter started drawing pitures of penises, which I feel was not teaching privacy. And teaching privacy is what keeps kids from being abused, in my opinion. And then...my niece started to teach my girls what she knows. I caught her making my 3 year old daughter repeat " i am a boy, and I have a penis" over and over. That took me a week to straighten out, since my daughter was just starting to understand the difference between boys and girls. Then a friend of mine had her boy over to play and my neice locked the 2 of them in a closet and took off his shirt and touched his penis. The final straw for me was when My 4 yr old can to me with her hands in the "this is the church, this is the stepple" position, and said my niece told her that her hand were making love. I have tryed to tell Sue about all this, and she calls me a lyer, and my 4 yr old. Who (my 4 yr old)by the way didn't and still doesn't know what she was doing was wrong or not appropriate, ao really had no reason to make it up. And my niece is always getting caought lying, one of her many behavior problems. Sue is niave, and I know that she doen't want to belive something is wrong. But I had to consider the safty of my own. SO I told her after trying MANY times to just talk about it with her, that I wouldn't let them play togteher any more. I feel aweful beacuse I think all of us including my niece are having to be punnished for Sues niavity, and stubberness. I have a new nephew that I may never see again because Sue will not talk to us. And I don't know if I am just beong overprotective, I feel like I teach my kids what they are ready to know, and I am the best one to know what they are ready for. Definatly not her 6 yr old Daughter. The things she has taught our gilrs are things we should be teaching them when WE feel they are ready to know. My husband backs me up 100%. But I need to know If I am crazy, or would you think this child isn't acting like a normal 6 yr old, and maybe being abused????? |
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