 | Hi! I'm a 16 year old girl, and I act the same way as your daughter. I have many guy friends, I wear baggy pants, and often shop at hot topic. My parents have frequently asked me if I do drugs, they have even accused me of doing them, but I dont. But by them continuing to ask and accuse me it just makes me feel like they dont trust me, which makes me want to distance myself from them. Also, I find myself getting out of the house as much as possible. Its much more fun being with my friends than sitting in the house by myself; speaking of my friends, as I mentioned previously, they are mostly male. Don't be alarmed by this. I find that I can relate to males more, and I so happen to be friends with more males than females, but thats all we are, friends, and I have never had sex in my life. Also, whats wrong with looking different than most teenage girls? I know that subconsciously part of the reason I dress the way I do is to distance myself from "preppy" people, who I have found are more likely to do drugs and have sex than the group of people I hang out with. And when it comes to hair color, its a look, an accessory if you will, most people are used to it now adays. In my opinion the best way to deal with the situation is to step back just enough to give her room to be herself, trust her, believe her when she tells you that she doesnt do things such as drugs and sex, but keep an eye on her, just in case. |
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