 | I think maybe the website made a mistake in suggesting parents just say no, because while this is an effective tactic, if you child has any intellegence whatsoever adn they really wnat to wear the article in question, they will argue. responded to an intellegent arguement by a sibple answer, "no", does not cast you in a favorable light. rather, it casts you as a died in the wool, stuffy, conservative, overly moderate parent, which 9 times out of 10 isn't true. And if a simple "because I say so" is the only response they get to their logic, teens will view their parents as illogical, and will abondon logic alltogether. because they realize that all the logic in the world will not get them what they want with their parents, so the best they can do is get back at these people they suddenly loathe. and face it, they will get back. I know dozens of kids that do, they get mad and even, taking every advantage to disobey and anger their parents. for a while this is a war they can't win, but after a while, a combination of Apathy and more self dependance begin to make conditions thus that a teen can torment their parents without the parents having the ability to punish them sufficiently to stop them. once your kid gets this sort of apathy to punishment and believes that your rules are arbitrary, all respect, and control, go out the window.
-Mateusza, a teen himself, has given his view on the reasons for parent/child conflict, from a first hand point of view. |
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