 | *I dres in baggy or one size to big clothing because I like that type of clothing because I find it comefortable
*they dress like they need a guy.
You go! When I was in high school, I dressed a lot like you because it was comfortable for me, too. I felt that comfort was more important even though I got mixed messages from my mom who liked to see me wear "girl" clothes, and that often meant something that made me look sexy. So naturally I thought that it was important to people and felt bad that I just wanted the sexuality of my body to be my secret, to share with the right person at the right time, or just keep to myself. I thought it was awful to expose that part of myself to everyone when it is so personal and private. It felt like walking around with my journal or diary open for everyone to read, it was just too exposing to wear the tight lowcut shirt that other girls were wearing. Many of my current male friends as well as my husband find it more interesting anyway when a woman is more covered. It allows them to focus on the person's personality as well as maintain some curiosity about her sexuality in the first place.
Getting to know someone takes time, and wearing those revealing clothes does look desperate, I agree, and for something young women and girls are probably not ready for. I think what they really want is to be liked and loved and admired, and society doesn't teach how to do that without sex. It's incredibly sad to have to learn this stuff the hard way. |
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