 | My 12 year old is an impossible little person. She is so mouthy and always has to have the last word (even if it's screamed from behind her bedroom door). In about the last 2 months though, the mouthiness has taken to new levels including name calling. Last night she called her (step) dad a "Big fat liar" and "Two timing sleazeball". There was no reason to call him these names - and no I have never said these things - and when asked, my daughter had no idea what a two-timing sleazeball even was. Turns out it was something she heard from someone else and thought she'd hurl that insult out because she was angry.
I sent her to her room and took her phone. I told her she couldn't come out or have her phone back until she apologized to her dad. She has apparently opted to remain grounded for life.
These stand-off's have become commonplace in my home lately, but I will not allow her to call any of her parents names. How long before 'two timing sleazeball' becomes other far worse words screamed in my face?
I cannot reason with her because when I try she has such a drama act "My life is sooo terrible - my mother is over-protective (because I won't let her go walking around town with her friends) - I have to go visit my father on the weekends (she's been doing that since she was 2) - my step-dad is mean and nothing I ever do is right (like call him a two-timing sleazeball)". Honestly, her allegations are truly unreasonable and I am wondering how much of this is just drama she's picking up from other friends, books, tv, etc.
Has anyone been through this? Or is anyone going through this? And how do we make it stop??? |
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