 | I am responding to this as a young(er) person, and hope that this will not offend anyone. :
I agree that parents should teach their kids right from wrong, but as children, we have all touched our selves or humped things. In our sleep we did/do it unconciously. It's one of those things we do... almost like an instinct. Because parents and taboo say that it's wrong it becomes one of those 'dont do in public' sort of things... but kids dont really do it "behind your back," they just do it. I'd like to also inform you that teens really aren't having sex before the age of 13. Yes, there are exceptions, the 'common age' is closer to between the ages of 15/16-20; even 15 is cutting it though, not many people do it that young. Going back to what you should say to your kids... Maybe you could try openly talking about it... what it does for the child to masturbate...what they're feeling? I doubt it's anything to be worried about, I dont think "someone[s] been messing with her," she's just exploring her body and doesn't know how else to do so. In addition, if masturbation is such a bad thing and so horrible in all your opinions, a lot of you will be in a great shock as your kids become older. You may have forgoten about puberty but the jokes you hear at the dinner table may take a sharp turn in the sexually oriented category. Lastly, men/boys have higher 'sexual levels' during the time of puberty, and masturbation is like their way of living almost. (this was told to me by almost every guy i know) Please don't yell at your kids if they masturbate, just talk to them and hear what they have to say. You could be very surprised by what they have to say if given the chance. |
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