 | Hi again. How far does her mother let her go in her rudeness to you? Does she just seem to ignore it or does she call her on it? I understand your position in letting her sit between the two of you,but she has got to get used to the two of you as a unit. She can still sit there sometimes,but I wouldn't let her do it all the time. Believe me as I am speaking from experience. I have been going through this for nearly two years now with my daughter. We involved her and her brother in activities,but we still went out together even when she would get upset. If she feels that she can cry or in some way stop that from happening it is eventually going to drive a wedge in your relationship. When you speak to her about your relationship let her know that you value her opinion greatly and she has a right to her feelings,but also let her know that you and her mother have a right to your feelings about each other as well.It sound to me as if her mother is just ignoring the whole thing and hoping that it will go away. Let her know that it will not go away and she is going to have to deal with it if she really loves you and intends to marry you. I tried to bury my head in the sand and it took a little while for me to see what it was doing to my husband. She will feel caught in the middle of the two of you,but she can somehow find the right balance. It's not always going to be easy,believe me.I still feel like beating both of them up most days.Her threats to spank her are only going to fuel her anger and they may work temporarily,but they will not work in the long run.Try this. When she does something wrong,look her in the eye as if she is the sweetest thing on earth and say,"I love you." You should see the reaction that you get! They don't have a clue what to do.Then just repeat whatever it was that you were telling them to do or whatever you were speaking about. Let me know how it goes. |
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