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| | | NEXT MESSAGE  | | | | | AUTHOR: | CaliforniaMom | DATE: 02/21/04 9:52pm | | SUBJECT: |  stepkids act needy then disappear | | | Maybe somebody has some insight. Last weekend my stepdaughters came for their dad's birthday and they cried to their dad that they miss him, want to see him more and want to be more part of their lives. Mostly it was the teenager saying this and she's the one who comes over very rarely. They were to come again this weekend(for a cousin's birthday) and we were so happy to see them two weekends in a row and they couldn't leave fast enough. They came sat. morn and left in the evening. We were surprised, as it was planned they'd stay through sunday; they left early sun. morning last weekend. I went over and over what may have happened and came to no conclusion. I invited them for next weekend and the teen refused because she wanted to go visit a friend. There is always some excuse why they can't come or need to leave earlier than planned, but they say they miss their dad and want to see him more but when he asks to see them, they're busy.
Does anyone know what's happening here? Is it me? Is it just that they're busy? They say it's boring here so I try to plan something fun sometimes, but they don't want to do it.
Divorce is sure bad for kids, divided between two households. What can I do to make them want to come more? We can't afford the kind of shopping trips they are accustom to. They are too old to care about the zoo (although at 34 I still like it). Any thoughts, ideas, words of encouragement? | |  | |
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