 | Hi, I hope you get this message, my heart goes out to you and your baby son, I have a 19 month old boy, he has been waking up 2 or 3 times a night for as long as I can remember. He also wakes up screaming sometimes and I always go to him There is a reason why they wake up screaming - we just dont know what it is. Please think of this, it is easier to go to him at that moment and take 15 minutes or 25 minutes to calm him down and make him feel safe again than to listen to him cry for an hour.
When my son is screaming I pick him up and hold him, talking softly to him saying its ok, mama loves you, I sing a soft song, I try to give him a bottle, (sometimes throws it) I tell him lets go see if the moon is in the sky ( we look out the window) or I distract him with looking at the cats (we have 2 cats) and finally if he is still screaming I take him downstairs for some cheese, he loves cheese, and even 10 minutes of Mary Poppins or The sound of music or the Baby Einstein videos. (Yes I actually do all this, I need to know that he's ok before going back to my room.) He eventually calms down. I know this requires a huge amount of patience and being able to ignore the fact that you have to get up early in the morning, but imagine yourself as him, crying and crying and no one is coming to make you feel safe again.
I go to my son always and it is hard, when his crying wrenches me out of a sound sleep, but I brought him into this world and I want him to always feel safe and that I will be there for him -
Our toddlers cant communicate with us right now - when he can talk and tell you whats wrong, it will be much easier, Please remember this wont go on forever, I tell myself that every night.
Get some music boxes that attach to the crib for him. The best one that all the babies I know love is the Tomy Star Bright Lightshow, my son loved it instantly, I got mine at One Step Ahead and another one at Kidsurplus.com for $15.00. It plays a teddy bear and stars and moon light show on the ceiling plus pretty lullabies, this always helps my son to lay down in teh crib and go to sleep, it a very good distraction.
I hope I have helped you - remember so many mothers are going through the same thing as you are, its so hard- Im 39 and waited till I was 37 to have a baby. Every effort you put into raising your child with love, patience, respect and attention will pay off in the long run, they are so innocent and they are helpless without our love and dedication.
I wish you and your little one the very best. |
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