 | Hi Kardjane, I just joined the board this morning looking for some answers and one of my problems is whining. But crying all the time, that is different. My daughter is 4 and a major whiner. She whines a lot.
Have you had your sons hearing and speech checked out? Does he ever get earaches? A friend of mine had a little boy that did nothing but cry all the time. It was driving her bananas. He was very hard to handle until I talked her into getting him an evaluation. They are usually free to get and are provided by the county. They are not through DSS or anything, they are just Childrens Services many don't know about.
It wound up her little guy had to have tubes in his ears, his ears were in pain all the time. I don't know if that is even remotely what could be wrong with your son, but I always thought, the child must hurt somewhere you can't see.
I had used them because my daughter wasn't walking when she was 1, and we were told by a friend to call them. They did an evaluation and she was delayed. (She was a premie). She had to have speech, occupational, physical & special ed for one year. It was all free and they did it at my choice of places. I chose my home. She wound up, after 11 months, graduating from all the therapies at an advanced level.
Another friend down the road had the same problem, her little boy would just cry and cry and cry all the time. He started preschool and you could hear him crying at the bus stop, in the bus and everywhere. He cried in her home, out of her home, just everywhere. Guess what she recently told me...he has to get tubes in his ears too!
Or maybe you could do this little thing with him. When my daughter starts crying over nothing, instead of ignoring her or giving her a time out (that never works for me), I take her little hand and say "come here, lets go sit and have a talk". She instantly stops crying, I take her over and sit her on my lap and ask her a couple of questions like "how was your day" and stuff like that and it works. I don't know if it is the one on one she wants, or throwing her off balance, but it works for me.
When she has a fit in a public place, we leave right away and she is not allowed to go back until she behaves. I have also made her a chart on the refrigerator. If she goes without whining or temper tantrums, she gets to put a sticker or gold star on the day. When she gets 5 in a row, she gets a special treat.
I hope I helped you in some way. I have been reading messages all morning and these people seem great! |
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