 | I too am furious over some of these replies. I have two children 3yrs and 1yr old. I think that we somehow got off track, everyone (i hope) is wanting the same thing, how to help our children grow up and be loving, patient, well behaved teens and adults. That all starts with us and the examples that we give them.
It is hard sometimes to disicpline a toddler and control their tantrums, but I think to say one ways is wrong and the other is right, is not going to cut it.
My two children are as different as night and day what may work for one does not work for another. I do spank but I hestitate to say that because some of you think that if we spank, that must mean we do all the time, and that we do it to harm or scare my children. Let me set the record straight that is not the case.
My children are not perfect and I most defaintly am not but I have had people stop my husband and I out and tell us that it is refreshing to see children (even as young as they are)that behave and can go to sit down restuarants. We had a complete stranger pay for a meal and on the note he sent over it said thank-you for doing your job as a parent. But that is not always the case,we have had to get up and give our child a time out or even a spanking in the bathroom because of a fit or tatrum.
My children are loved and before we go anywhere we talk about the rules and how nice boys and girls are suppose to act,and how people have feelings and how we need to respect others it helps to set guide lines and rules and let your chldren know what is expected of them and work with them to behave.
So to answer your question about spanking or no spanking if it is done out of love and not anger,then maybe that is the answer for you but if it is no spanking that you beleive is right then find something that works for your child. It all boils down to one thing and that is we are the parents and they are the children they have to have rules and boundries and rewards and consquences. Not easy to do sometimes. I am not sure this helps at all but it is what works for us and trust me there is nothing besides God that I love more than my children. |
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