 | I'm terribly emarrassed to post on this Board, since I'm almost 65 and was married for 42 years!
It was a marriage that should never have been. First the children were to be considered, then the feeling of security was important. Finally it was just too much. Seven months ago the divorce was final and now I just purchased a home with my son. He will help me financially. My ex-husband will only give me maintenance payments while he is still working. If he becomes ill and can't work, or voluntarily stops working, all I get is my little bit of social security.
He did give me enough to put some money into the purchase of a home. I couldn't get a lawyer because I knew that if anyone would have ordered him to do anything, he would have quit work right then and there. I was "unrepresented" at the divorce hearing.
I guess what I'm trying to say is, that even though it will be difficult, financially, emotionally I'll feel better than I have in a lifetime. Right now I'm staying with him, because I'm waiting for the closing on the new house. It's extremely difficult seeing him go out every week-end, while I sit home and just watch TV and do laundry. I think it is very disresectful of him to do this while I'm here. I have no interest in meeting men. I just want a peaceful, comfortable life now.
Sorry for the long-winded epistle. This is the first time I've seen any support for divorced people on the internet.
Any well-meaning advice would be appreciated. |
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