 | "I've never had a gf or even been close"
Plenty of people go to be your age and not have a girlfriend. I don't think there's a big reason to have a girlfriend yet.
"dont talk to them or anything, Im an extremely quite person and I dont socialise much"
I know how you feel. I myself don't socialize a bunch. Even when I am with my friends, I only hang out with my closer friends. For example, last night, approx. 10 of my friends went to someone's house, well, me and 2 of my closer buddies just hung out in a seperate room.
"I'm in no way attractive, im ugly and I'm fat and no girl alive would fall for me"
First off, I'm not going to lie and say looks don't matter, because to a certain extent they do. Don't compare yourself to models, or preps in your school or community. That's what I do, and therefore I don't feel the best. Try to think of what things you can fix. If you have acne, visit a dermatologist. If you have glasses, get some contacts. Try your hair different styles. Take a shower every day and experiment with different colognes to see what works best on you. Go to a recreation center and start working out. Most importantly think of your goal. I just got braces, I'm going to a dermatologist, and we just got an exercise machine, and I'm thinking of what's coming up.
"she hates me now though because I said something that suggested I fancied her"
This kind of reminds me of something that happened with me... Kathryn wasn't really my friend, but she liked me. Then, 3-4 years later, I liked her, but by then we became friends. So, I told her. We have grown a little apart. Apologize to her and tell her how you feel ... it may sound corny, but if she likes you for a friend, or even did like you, she should understand.
If you want to get more friends, if you have anyone that's close to becoming a friend, invite them over. Order some pizza, watch a movie. They may eventually tell others how much fun they had! If you keep care of your body, you'll have more confidence and socialize more.
Good luck!
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