 | Betty -
I hope you have gotten some responses to your concerns..? Here's my 2 cents worth...
Your son had to change school because you moved - that's difficult for him to understand at this age, but don't rush him back to his old school - giving in like that is like giving in to a tantrum and will only create more problems for you and he in the future - when he doesn't get his way or what he wants, he'll expect you and your husband to jump through hoops just to make him happy and solve his problems. Teach him coping skills, team building skills and most importantly how to like himself so others will also like him and then want to include him in their already established play groups.
Also, spend time with him. Take him to the park, to the skating rink, to the places where kids his age hang out...introduce yourself and him to others his age - exchange phone numbers, set up play dates at your home, the park, etc...be his advocate until he develops better skills and can do this on his own. Give him time, have faith in him, but be there in his corner to help if necessary.
Also, you can always seek professional help for his anger and depressed feelings about loosing the baby you were carrying. He needs to learn to express his emotions safely, believe that you and your husband love him no matter what, and that you want to help him to become a happy little boy again.
As he becomes happier, he'll get along better at school and then things will begin looking up for all. Have faith and keep trying - don't give up. If he needs medication or therapy - get it for him no matter what the cost - because spending money on that is better spent than on toys or video games - it will ensure that he will be with you and your family long into the future. There are ways to get insurance to cover the costs, or even programs to help out - even free/reduced cost clinics...look into everything - use the web to your advantage....
Hope my words give you encouragment and ideas...
Keep working for yourself and your family,
Michele |
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