 | My son......there are so many things I can say about my son. My son is polite, friendly, funny, charming, loveable, smart,
manipulative, and sneaky!!! I have always rewarded good grades and deeds with my attention, games, movies and fun outings. My question is this.... WHY is he ALWAYS lying, not completing assignments, doing sloppy work in school and getting lousy grades???? All his teachers agree that he CAN do the work but does not put any consistant effort into it . I need to stay on his but and check everything...frankly It is difficult to do that...he is 11 and needs to be responsible. I need to be able to trust that he will bring home his homework and do it too (yeah right)he is constantly findind new ways to try and get out of doing his work including...saying it was done in school(when it wasn't) And he knows I will ALWAYS find out the next day (his teacher and I have good communication and talk frequently) sometimes he will just write anything down to get it over with sometimes he tries to get me to do it for him but mostly he just does it quick and sloppy without really trying. I think he wants me to think that he can not do the work but I do not suspect any learning disabilities or attention problems because he has no problems doing things he likes to do.
Punishing him is hard he could care less by being punished. If I say no video games, toys or TV he don't care caus he seldom uses them. He likes to read, think and sing and can amuse himself with his own imigination ....how can I say..."you'r punished do not use your imagination"?????? I am a single mom that works full time and is currently attending college. I got so much going on and he finds every way to "get over" I am trying my hardest to raise a child with a good self esteem respect for others, and good judgement.....WHAT AM I DOING WRONG???????
somebody PLEASSSSSE help. |
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