 | I have been raising my 3 year old nephew for two mos now, and may gain temp custody soon. I also raised a son why was ADHD, then lost the hyperactivity as a teen. He is now a very successful 11th grader getting A's and B's in regular classes. Although he has learning disabilities in reading areas. What I wanted to share is that my nephew was already assessed by local preschool programs involving childfind. He is hyperactive with impusivity disorder. And, although not yet diagnosed, I believe he has an Oppisitional Disorder. Still we are making progress. Even though it is lots of work, and even exhausting, I would recommend natural consequences, and time outs, along with having the day very scheduled, even if it is only evenings you have with your child. Having a schedule, and showing them they can learn, really boosts their self esteem and helps limit frustration levels. When we first cared for our nephew at times a year ago, he wouldn't even sit for a book, or stop running from room to room to engage in any activity for more than seconds, and he is making great progress, so hang in there and be consistant. That is most important, if you share care with another adult, make sure you handle problems and consequences in the same way, even small differences seem to be frustrating to the child. Hope some of this has helped. Sometimes we just need hope. Someday, your child will be an adult and appreciate all the effort. |
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